Problem

Resentment

Other Names:
Irreconcilability
Unforgiving
Nature:

Resentment (also called ranklement or bitterness) has been described as the simultaneous or overall combined experience of the feelings disappointment, anger and fear. Usually or at least most of the time, all of those feelings are felt simultaneously when thinking about the subject which is resented, in order for it to qualify as being resentment. If they are not felt simultaneously, and are instead felt randomly and at separate times, then it is not resentment, but simply multiple and slightly differently contextual feelings towards something. It comprises the three basic emotions of disgust, sadness and surprise—the perception of injustice. As the surprise of injustice becomes less frequent, so too fades anger and fear, leaving disappointment as the predominant emotion. So, to the extent perceived disgust and sadness remain, the level of disappointment also remains. Resentment can be triggered by an emotionally disturbing experience that then becomes an obsession, where in contemplating the experience, one starts to develop feelings of resentment towards something (an idea/concept, or an object), or someone. This feeling of resentment often occurs just after a feeling of perceived injustice, which the subsequently resented idea/concept/object/person is responsible for. When the person feeling resentment is directing the emotion at himself or herself, it appears as remorse.

Robert C. Solomon, a professor of philosophy at the University of Texas at Austin, places resentment on the same continuum as anger and contempt, and he argues that the differences between the three are that resentment is anger directed toward a higher-status individual; anger is directed toward an equal-status individual; and contempt is anger directed toward a lower-status individual.

Resentment is not one of Paul Ekman's six basic emotions (surprise, disgust, happiness, sadness, anger, and fear).

The word originates from French "ressentir", re-, intensive prefix, and sentir "to feel"; from the Latin "sentire". The English word has become synonymous with anger and spite.

Claim:
Holding on to past hurts, old grievances and judgements of others creates disharmony and strengthens the illusion of separateness. Since a person's judgements of others are often a reflection of feelings towards unresolved issues and difficulties in himself, the person's failure in not forgiving others reinforces his own sense of guilt and feelings of unworthiness.
Problem Type:
F: Fuzzy exceptional problems
Subject(s):
Arbitration
Date of last update
01.07.2018 – 06:52 CEST