Patterns & Metaphors

Good-bad behaviour

Template:
Whether in controlling one's own behaviour, bringing up a child, commanding a regiment, or managing an enterprise, skill is used in alternating between requiring 'good' behaviour and allowing 'bad' behaviour. In the case of a child, for example, to expect good behaviour all the time stultifies formation of the child's character. It is recognized that 'bad' behaviour is in many cases a healthy expression of a 'free spirit', to be permitted within certain limits. A child always on good behaviour is recognized as lacking some quality of individuality. A similar situation prevails in an army, especially under combat conditions. A good commander knows 'when not to see things'.
Metaphor:
It is to be expected that healthy groups and societies should also alternate between good and bad behaviour.
[Features] The manner in which limits are defined and the struggle to maintain and redefine them. The incompleteness of both extremes. Development takes place by alternation between the limits.
[Contrast] Whilst there may be some collective tolerance of bad behaviour by groups and societies, this is not understood as a necessary complement to their good behaviour. Societies are supposed to be good all the time. They are not expected to indulge in foolish mistakes.
[Keys] Weekly 'booze-ups' and annual carnivals as safety valves to 'let off steam'. 'Sowing wild oats' before 'settling down'.<