Affectionate bonding

Characterized by the development of deep, mutual caring which is understood to stand the test of time and difficult circumstances. Each has a realistic appraisal of the other, accepting both strengths and weaknesses and thus avoiding the delusions of the mutual idealization of passionate lovers. A relationship based on passion is recognized as a mere prelude, in healthy and optimal situations, to this mature form of love. A certain measure of emotional maturity is required to transform the passionate phase into a steady-state mature relationship. Affectionate bonding is thus based on mutuality, warmth, and mutual affirmation, but especially on trust and loyalty. The lovers recognize the optimal distance between them, allowing for union without subverting autonomy through domination or submission.