Over a longer period of time romantic lvoe fundamentally changed the mores of male behaviour and of marriage in the West. Today rather than entering an arranged marriage, two adults, mature to the point of determining their own lives, select one another. It would take time for this breach with tradition to be widely adopted and there are many parts of the world where it still is not common practice. Yet the rise of the individual, and especially of the individual woman appears in history at this time.
For example, Dante's late-thirteenth century account of his immortal love for Beatrice in La Vita Nuova [The New Life] refers specifically to the model of the poetry of Languedoc as his inspiration. In his book Love in the Western World, Denis des Rougemont explores the theme of love through the myth of Tristan and Iseult and the troubadours. Rudolf Steiner wrote likewise of the change in human experience of the self that dawns in the late Middle Ages and is fully formed by the late eighteenth century. He termed it the dawning of the "consciousness soul," one of whose hallmarks is loneliness. The troubadours knew the ennui of what they termed "distant love."
2. Other people's romantic gestures seem novel and exciting. Your own romantic gestures seem foolish and clumsy.
3. Gravity cannot be held responsible for people falling in love. (Albert Einstein).
4. Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.