Shame covers the broad spectrum of painful affects, including the the emotional consequences embarrassment, humiliation, mortification and disgrace, that accompany the feeling of being rejected, ridiculed, exposed, or of losing the respect of others. Shame results when people receive negative messages -- either internally or from others, leading them to believe they are a bad or defective person who is helpless to change that deficit. Physical sickness (eg queasiness) and feelings of helplessness and powerlessness often accompany shame. Through the link with stress, shame may impact the human immune system and play a part in the disease process.
Researchers at the University of California, Los Angeles (UCLA) demonstrated the vicious cycle of shame and illness by enrolling a group of graduate students into a study to examine how their opinions of themselves affect their immune systems. They asked students to write about traumatic or emotional experiences for which they blamed themselves; others were asked to write about experiences that didn't evoke any guilt or shame. Participants who wrote about neutral experiences and those who felt guilt over their experience showed no measurable physical changes that might make them ill. However, the students who felt shame for the incidents they wrote about showed an increase in cytokine activity, as measured by blood tests. (Cytokines are chemicals that signal inflammation, indicating that a disease process may be in progress.) The people who felt the most shame had the highest elevation of cytokine activity.
Shame, especially persistent shame, affects the immune system much more than guilt. Our culture has developed a procedure for handling guilt: you acknowledge you did something wrong, you vow not to repeat the behaviour, you atone for your actions, and you accept the consequences. Because of this accepted process of expunging guilt, the emotion does not trigger stress and therefore is not likely to affect immune system function.

2. Many people colour the world and themselves in very black and white terms. If they have made a mistake, then they see themselves as totally bad, stupid, weak, evil, whatever, and feel shame and helplessness. Challenging this faulty logic is a first step in helping them learn to cope with being merely human and therefore prone to the occasional error and its consequences. For physical as well as mental health reasons, understanding the nature of shame and guilt and developing good, strong, effective coping skills is important. Therapy is key in helping reverse negative beliefs and in developing coping strategies.

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