Counter-dependency

There is a current tendency for people to attempt to maintain their individual stability, order and peace, by retreating into a private universe and avoid all encounters which would wake them up. They attempt to control personally their intellectual contexts and social structures, preferring to be bound by habits and institutions, reduced images of security and well being. Social controls are used to deny the things which they would prefer not to know. Only life styles which seem to be successful in this attempt to remain asleep are pointed to as significant ways to participate in society: the modern experience of the struggle to be significant in society is often called the rat race. The result is a feeling that social structures are crumbling, roles are becoming meaningless and impotent, and participation in decision-making processes are ineffective.

Counter-dependency has been described in psychological circles as a reaction against extreme dependency. Counter-dependent people feel so dependent on others that they must convince them (and the self) that they do not need anyone at all and, hence, act so as to say, "I don't need anybody".